I can't find the site where I got these questions. Anyway, I hope these questions would help you and your soon-to-be to know more about each other... =)

Family Planning
  • Will we have children?
  • If so, when?
  • How many children will we have?
  • Who will be the disciplinarian?
  • Will we send them to private or public school?
  • Will one of us stay at home to raise the children?
  • If we are having a hard time conceiving, will you be opposed to artificial methods of conception?
  • Would you be willing to adopt?
  • What birth control methods will we use if we decide to wait?
  • What values do we want to instill in our children, and how will we do so?
  • How will we discipline our children?
  • What would be the consequences for ...?
  • How will we reward our children?
  • Will we give them allowance?
  • Will we set limits on privileges?
  • Where do we stand on junk food, video games...?
  • How much family time is appropriate?
  • What do you consider quality time as a family? With each other?
  • What is our long-term daycare plan? What's our back-up? Can we afford it?
  • How much time will we spend with the in-laws?
  • What will we do for holidays?
  • If something happens to the both of us, who will take care of our children?


  • Who's going to handle the finances?
  • Will we have separate or joint accounts?
  • Will we split the bills or pay them together?
  • Who will be responsible for the budgeting?
  • What is your spending style? Are you a spender or a saver?
  • How are you financially preparing for retirement?
  • What are your views on debt (credit cards, loans, etc.)?
  • How much can we spend each month?
  • How much do we plan on saving each month?
  • What are our long-term goals? Saving for a house? College? Retirement?
  • How much do you spend shopping each month?
  • Do we create a house budget and write down everything we spend?
  • Do we have a certain amount of money that's individual or are we pooling everything?
  • If one of us lost our job, what would we do?
  • Does one of us want a career change in the future? How would we finance that?
  • If it came time to buy a new car, what kind would you get? How much would you spend? What are your plans now for saving towards that?
  • Do we have emergency money? How can we save that? What constitutes an "emergency"?
  • Is there a spending limit that we should check with each other before making purchases over a certain amount?
  • What are our priorities? Is college money more important or is a new kitchen, etc.?
  • Will each of us draft a will? What should the will say?
 Home Life

  • Where will we live after the wedding?
  • Will we rent or purchase?
  • What chores are expected of each other?
  • Where will we live after we retire?
  • What will the bride's last name be after the wedding?
  • What will we do when both sets of our parents are in their advanced ages?

  • Will both of us work?
  • If I get a career opportunity in another city or state or even country, would you be willing to move?
  • When are we planning on retiring?

Communication Style

  • Are you willing to talk about issues or do you brood?
  • How much communication is too much and leads to overload?
  • Would you be willing to seek help from a third party (counseling) if we are unable to resolve our issues on our own?


  • How do you handle stress and crises that suddenly occur? Do you explode or do you step back and approach the issue calmly or somewhere in between?

  • Does your family have any history of serious medical problems?
  • Do you have a history of serious medical problems?
  • Have you ever been, or are now, addicted to: drinking, smoking, drugs, gambling?
  • Would you be opposed to the both of us getting tested for sexually transmitted diseases?
  • What should we do if the other is on life support? Will we draft a Living Will/Trust?

2/23/2010 01:37:07 pm

I've read this somewhere, too.. But, like you, I can't seem to remember. I don't seem capable of remembering! hahaha!

But this question is clear: Who will be the disciplinarian?

Jamie. Hahaha!

2/23/2010 03:51:26 pm

wahahah... =)

jamie we have to be clear on what "discipline" mean. hahhaah... you sure you know how to do that?


2/23/2010 03:59:49 pm

In line with what happened to a family in Katarungan Village early yesterday morning, here's another question girls should ask their husbands-to-be or even BOYFRIENDS-to-be...:

**If we encounter problems and are unable to resolve them, would you go as far as hacking us with a cleaver or are you fine with just grabbing a few beers with your buddies?


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